Separation and Divorce Counselling

Marriages activate powerful ideal schemas that upon failure often result in considerable internal conflict. Stress leads to making decisions primarily from emotions related to the fight and flight response unless specific interventions are in place to manage conflict thoughtfully, either individually or collaboratively.

Coaching to bring your relationship to an end in away that decrease recrimination, guilt and shame.

Education about the possible challenges of adjusting to living separate lives especially if one wants out and the other doesn't.

Coaching parents on how to discuss the separation and act afterwards with the children's best interests foremost in the mind.

Coaching and challenging couples to acknowledge the happy times as well as the bad so that necessary grief can be expressed allowing for a healthy letting go and dissolving of the bonds of marriage.

Initial discussions of separating finances, residence and parenting responsibilities that can be used to guide legal counsel to minimize disruption during the transition from married to unmarried.

Creation and enactment of goodbye rituals.